“Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.”— Emery Allen (via perrfectly)
your speed doesn’t matter, forward is forward
Experiencing burnout in an area you love doesn’t mean you are no longer passionate about that thing, or are any less good at it. It’s often an indication that there are other parts of your life that need your care. A garden looks most beautiful when every flower is watered, and you deserve to nourish yourself in the same way. You will flourish again.
no one wants to hear it but love is earned after the initial infatuation. commitment is something u both mutually agree to and then from there it’s work. it’s not work like it’s a chore it’s jus work like it takes effort. to get good at these things takes practice. it takes practice to learn to communicate better and it takes practice to learn to love each other in the ways u need to be loved.
And it’s also terrifying! Like it’s the kind of vulnerability you can’t do while being all cool and in control of things, you have to like open up the really awkward, ugly inner part of yourself and hope that the other person is still into you.
Like you have to actually say - with words coming out of your mouth or hands or whatever way you use to directly communicate in person - what you would like from the other person! You have to say stuff like “hey the thing you did made me feel some ways and we have to address this like adults” and hope that the other person says “I see, yes I also think we should address this like adults” (instead of “no I didn’t” or “you’re overreacting” or other shut-down-ing shit that ruins lives).
i take up space and that is okay, because so do the trees and the mushrooms and the moon. and that is okay.
It’s kinda cool how someone can just pop into your life all of a sudden and become so important to you within such a small amount of time. I think that’s what makes life so interesting though. There’s always a reason to be hopeful for the future because you never know what good things will come your way next.
You’ll get more chances. At friendships. At relationships. At job/school related progress. At following your dreams. At chasing your passions. It’s not now or never. There will always be other chances and other opportunities.
“I can’t do this” isn’t always an expression of negativity, insecurity and laziness. Sometimes it’s a conclusion made based on self acceptance, self respect and self awareness. Having limits, being aware of them and respecting them isn’t inherently bad or weak and we need to stop demonizing it.
i know posts that are like “it’s okay if you don’t write for a few days” are meant to be positive but honestly……. it’s also okay if you don’t write for weeks. or months. it’s okay if it takes years to get back to writing. i know writing every day, even just 10 words, is a great habit to develop and all, but sometimes you just can’t. whether it’s lack of time or exams or your mental health or whatever, you’re allowed to take a break. no matter for how long. the only one you should be writing for is you, and you’re the one to decide when
You don’t have to limit yourself to liking “cool” things or “mature” things or “adult” things. You’re allowed to find joy in everything you can no matter your age. Don’t ever give up your stuffed animals, your cartoons, your fandoms, your video games, your alternative style or anything else just because people expect you to “grow out of it.” You don’t have to do that. You’re allowed to find joy where you can.
let’s treat ourselves more gently. let’s go to bed early. let’s rest when we need to. let’s live life in a way that doesn’t make you feel burnt out after a few weeks. i want us to have fun, to enjoy everyday life, to be present and not to always push ourselves to the last limit. challenge yourself but also treat yourself with love. okay?
someday when you’re at peace, you’ll be so glad you didn’t give up